Adults. Parents, aunts, uncles, grand parents, the old lady that sells vegetables at the Sunday Market are some of the few people that exist that are categorized as adults. Remember when we were kids and we obey everything adults have to say, no matter how ridiculous or unfair it was ? Even if we were right at that time, adults still win. They'll just use the old "You're just a kid, you're too young to know any of these stuff".
But as we slowly transition into adulthood, we can think for ourselves. We can differ which one is right, wrong, fair or unfair. We have the rights to choose which of which we prefer. Still, this doesn't give us the right to make life changing decisions on our own without discussing it with an adult, especially our parents. Imagine how heart breaking it would be for them to have raised your for 18 years plus,giving you shelter, food,clothes having it all end with you running away with some foreigner working in some random bank. This is kinda runs off topic on what I actually wanted to talk about.
What I wanted to talk about is how some adults think that it is important for us to keep in touch with each other through social network. I mean, I do have a few of my relatives on my Facebook and follow a few of my cousins on twitter cause I don't know, sometime s I reject requests from my relatives, I block some of them on twitter and stuff for privacy purposes. I have my rights to do so. Heck, I don't even add my parents on Facebook. Yes ladies and gentlemen, my parents are not on my friend's list.
At first I didn't add them because I wanted my own space, I'm living in the same house as they are so I don't need to chat with them or comment on their pictures or like their "Cooking bla bla bla tonight" status. I can see clearly with my 2 eyes what they're doing. I don't need to update myself on what they're doing in their office or at the grocery store. Well my parents never update their status based on those marks. I know this because I stalk them through my sibling's account. But once I entered Uni, I realized that every time I fly back to town for mid semester break or whatever ridiculous breaks that exist in our lovely country, the gap of really missing your family is really huge, seriously. There is more meaning when hugging your parents at the airport when your only form of contact with them beforehand is through your phone. We even have more topics to talk about on our way back home from the airport. I think for me that is, I get even more closer with both of my parents because of not being connected with them with any of the social networks. Just imagine, now this is from my point of view, you're friends with your parents on Facebook and also friends with their friends. What would the conversation be like ?
*in the car*
Mother: I .......
A:Yes mom, I read your status
Father:Did you know......?
A:Yeah I favourite your twitter remember?
Mother: Honey, did you .....?
Father: Yeah read his status
*awkward 45 minute silence*
You get my point of view ?
I know some parents would say that they're doing so because they want to keep a watchful eye on their kids and monitor their activities and stuff. Now do you really think that if you're doing so because you wanted SPY on them that your kids would update the whole truth and not just half of the truth on their social networks ? Some post the whole truth, some post up half of it. Some just mash up all the colourful rainbows and unicorns to make up one huge hardly to detect false statement.
Some of my relatives have questioned why I don't add them or my parents on Facebook. I'll always reply with a "Why should I ?" . I almost always update my parents on the things that I do. Preparing for an upcoming performance I would text them. Studying for a quiz I'd tell them. Thinking I'm failing a paper I'd tell them. Wanting to quit half way,roll around on the floor kicking and screaming I would tell them. Taking up Herbalife I'd tell them. Losing weight I'd text them. Done with an event and etc. I think that about covers it on updating my parents on my activities. There was even this once where the security guard allowed us to go out late at night on our last day before break, I even told my mum about that. My mum replied with a "K, take care". Do I really want a mushy mushy comment from my folks on Facebook ? Um no !
My mum almost brought up that she couldn't see my pictures from Perth on fb since we weren't friends. I took out my iPod and showed her the pictures there. Take note that this post is not to encourage people to remove their relatives from Facebook or whatever. It is just an opinion.
Recently I was added into my relatives 'group' on whatsapp and I knew I did not wanted to partake in any of the chats due to finals ( 1 out of 2 reasons why I left the group ) so I left the group the second I was added. I knew that topics that have no connections to me or whatsoever will be discussed on the group. So I decided to leave it. Staying in the group would just be a waste of my phone's battery and also fill up my phone's memory. I didn't know there was going to be an 'issue' about it. Its just a group for goodness sake, anything important my parents would just update me through a DIRECT whatsapp or text or just give me a call. What you had for breakfast or where you shopped doesn't really effect my life.
A: Had this for breakfast *post picture on Whatsapp*
B:You should try this *post picture*
A:Drinking this too*post pic*
C:E when are we going to the movies?
B:Movies can I come?
A:Can I come as well E?
C:Hey E?
B:E?
W:Why isn't E responding ?
Sure, the purpose of the group is to update on important things or yeah if you want to show the people in the groups what you had for breakfast go a head. But seriously ? Talking to another person through the group is just dumb. People left, right, are saying " We don't need to know what you want to say to that said person" or "You can just Whatsapp them privately you know?" But they don't. You know why ? Cause you're an adult and 'kids' 'respect' adults. I left the group cause I know what is important to me. Yes family is important, but spams aren't. Everybody knowing everything about you, be it a relative or not, is not fun at all. Its almost like an overly attach girlfriend who monitors her boyfriend's every move and you know that never ends well for any of the involved party.
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