Jokes. Teasing. Everybody does it. Who doesn't ? Sure its fun to pull of a few pranks, do harmless jokes/teases for laughs but when it goes to far man does it hurt.
To be honest, I was going to do a totally different post than what you people are about to read. Mostly about the things I did this weekend but the 'issue' popped into my mind all of a sudden while I was busy doing the laundry about a few hours ago and I went back and forth on whether I should be writing about it at all. I mean, the person that did this might think that it was only a harmless joke. It is at first though, but the persistent of this human being on doing it over and over again just made the harmless joke into a real pain in the ass (emotions).
For those that don't know. I am from Sarawak. I am a Malay. I am 20. I am Muslim. The look on people's faces when I tell them that I am from Sarawak is priceless I can't lie about that. A few other don't even believe me until I show them my identification card or speak in dialect on the phone .... in front of them.
Jokes. I love them to death. Minus those countless amount of comedy show/competition they keep on airing on television. I surprise myself when I can make jokes out of thin air and also happy/pleased when others that hear it for the first time including myself laugh after hearing the joke. Not just joking, but I also tease here and there. Usually my teasing involves about a funny mistake that a person have made before but I don't think I have gone over board ( who knows ) with my teasing since my target in the end laughs at it as well.
Well you know what they say, it is fun to make fun of others or when others are the target but it sure as hell ain't fun when you're the target or jokes, teasing etc. I usually just shrug it off if some random person teases me though if a person I knew well like a close friends or junior I'd do my very best and analyse their teasing/jokes and try to find at least something that truly is funny. If I can't find anything humorous about it, I would just put on a fake smile or laughter. I kid you not, a friend of mine once said that I have absolute control over my body language.
But the ones that I cannot stand are people that keep on repeating the same script ( teasing ) towards you over and over again. Even after explaining to them on how their joke does not make any sense at all since it has so much error in the basics.
A few nights ago, a guy that knows me for a few years gave me a surprised look when he heard I was a Muslim. Like seriously. We go to the same activities. We have mutual friends. We hang out a few times. Why give me the look. Heck we even prayed next to each other a few times. I knew he was joking so I just laughed it off and gave him a light tap on the shoulder. Then man was he on a roll after that. He started asking whether I was of an ethnic group from my state. After that he started saying my name where insted of saying 'Bin" (for Malays) he said "Anak Lelaki" which if I am not mistaken is for Indians. Again I just laugh it off but explained to him that Ibans do not use "Anak Lelaki but just the "Anak" part. And again he said "Oh so you're Izzat Anak ???" That's when it had gotten over board. A friend sitting nearby was laughing a bit but then stop when the joke/question was continuously being asked over and over again by the same person. He even continue asking the same question on our way back to our room.
I knew at this point the jokes, teasing has somehow turn into bullying without the person doing it knowing at all. People say that 'teens' in school bully to hide their own insecurities. Family problems, weight issues, jealousy etc. Bullies make themselves feel good by downing other people. Knowing that others feel as miserable as they are or even more makes bullies feel like they are better than others.
Instead of being depressed due to bullying and such, why not just ignore the lad and think about the good thing that has happened to you. Caring to much about what bad things bullies have to say is just a waste of your precious time. So that is what I am going to do. I wont be ignoring that person but if he brings up the same old joke, my only response is to walk away.
Remember, bullies/jerks bully cause they are full of insecurities.
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